Thread: Feeling a little sad...

Hi. I returned to work yesterday, which is fine. It's only part time and it's actually quite nice to be back.

I introduced formula about a month ago and Naomi is fine with it, but still bf during the night. However, I offered her breast last night (both) and she was wriggling and moaning. I don't think she was really getting anything. So gave her a bottle and she had the whole lot. My breasts are quite sore today but not anywhere near as much as they usually are when I've missed a feed. So she had almost no breast yesterday. She doesn't seem that bothered about it though.

I knew the day would come eventually, but now it's here, I'm feeling really down about it. I'm sure I'll get used to it. I was just hoping to carry on maybe just do evenings. Should I express to keep the flow going, or just call it a day?

Sorry, just felt like getting it off my chest. Told DH I'm sad about it but he doesn't seem very fazed. Can't expect him to understant really.

Magriet

Hiya hun, no advice but just wanted to give you a

Magriet,

I will call you tonight or try and catch you on MSN. I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling down.

xxx

Poor you - it is a rotten feeling when they give up before you are ready. I had a similar experience with my DS2. No, men don't understand. I expressed for while hoping he would change his mind but when he would sit on the bed watching me expressing and holding his hands out for the cup, but refused to have anything to do with bosoms, it was a bit demoralising! And as the flow gets less you just feel sadder. Something to be said for trying to look on the bright side!

I know that feeling. When I went back to work after Imogen, I actually still tried to (secretly) feed her and she rejected me. Was totally gutted.

Crap innit, when stuff happens even when you know it's inevitable, eventually.

It's hard - I had a sort of similar experience with both of mine - I desperately wanted to breastfeed but couldn't and it was gutting. And I got very little support from DH - I think he was secretly pleased as he would be able to help with the feeding; he felt quite left out. I was really down for ages, especially with DD1, but I did come through it. She is happy and healthy and both got the early milk stuff, so I am okay now.

Thanks girls. Yesterday after collecting her from the childminders, my boobies were quite tender so she had a nice long'ish feed then fell asleep. It was nice to just cuddle on the bed with her, even if it was just for 1/2 hour.

So looks like I'm not completely dried up just yet, but definitely on the way there.

I'm feeling a bit better about it today. x

awwww its hard when they come to prefer the bottle.

Glad youre feeling better about it today!

I don't know how old your daughter is, but they seem to go through stages of not wanting as much bf. Maybe she was stimulated from her day away from you and just didn't feel like it? If you really want to carry on, I'd keep offering it and I am sure your milk will adjust its supply. Good luck - I know I was really sad when I stopped feeding all three of ours and DH didn't really get it, though he tried to be understanding.