Thread: Telling the relatives

I'm feeling totally furious and upset at the moment. Last night dh and I sent a jokey email to his mum and dad with the picture of my belly and a picture of the positive pregnancy test. We rang and told them to check their emails but didn't hear anything, so I text them this morning and asked if they had received the email and I still didn't hear anything.

Dh has just rang them up and his mum answered. They had received the email but she hadn't bothered to ring us. She was obviously not thrilled with the news and just decided to ignore it. I could tell by my dp's voice that there wasn't much in the way of congratulations. As soon as he put the phone down, I told him I thought she was a total cow and I wish we hadn't told her. Dh agreed that he was upset at her reaction.

Why would she do this to us? It's our 4th so I guess it doesn't matter now. The over riding feeling though was that we are totally mad and how am I going to cope.

At the moment I don't think I'm going to be able to speak to her for awhile, I'm too annoyed.

Fortunately my family are happy for me, as are my friends. She has really put a downer on this for me though.

WTF :ranting

Some people are just mean, pure and simple. Are they usually like this? I mean anything like it before? If nothing else its just plain rude. I don't blame you for not wanting to speak to her right now. This baby will be loved and wanted and we will all coo over the gorgeous baby pictures.

Hopefully the shock you must be in to their reactions will wear off soon. :hug

Harman :hug

What a horrible thing to do - they should be delighted whether it is your first, or fourth, or fourteenth!

:ranting

Congratulations from us anyway! When are youdue?

love
Susan

I'm so sorry Harman. Please don't let their reaction impede on your happiness.
I think its all to common for peole to react thias way though.
With ds1 I received 50 congratulations cards. When ds2 was born I only received 12. Apparently phone calls were all too much of a bother for people as well. I don't understand it. A new member of the family is arriving and they don't seem to care.
I know that they will come round eventually.
Until then just enjoy this pregnancy with your closest family.

How are you doing harman?

:hug Harman - that is terrible. How cruel of them. Please don't allow them to spoil this for you though. It isn't worth it.

Huge congratulations to you and your family

Congrats Harman :hug :clap

I know how you feel though, my mum wasn't in the least over joyed when I was pregnant with DS1 or DS2 and she doesn't acknowledge DD as her grandaughter, but I just think f**k it, it's her that's missing out

Well, me went to see f-i-l last week. Eleanor is 18 weeks old, he lives about 10 miles away (and drives into the town where we live twice a week to fence (sword type)) and this was the first time he had seen her. He has never sent a birthday card to our son (his only grandchild until recently) either.#

I can't be bothered to give a sh*t.

Thanks for being so nice.

I have no idea why she is being so bloody nasty. When I got pregnant with dd1 7 years ago, she wasn't exactly overjoyed then. She didn't like me much and didn't speak to me until after dd was born. After a long time she got over whatever her problem was and things have been fine.

She seemed to be pleased when I had the other 2, although she tends to worry about things and is always telling me not to have anymore in a jokey kind of way. At least I thought she was joking.

The only thing it could be is she thinks I am being thoughtless where my sil is concerned. She was one dd, but has had 2 ectopics and lost both tubes and had 2 failed attempts at ivf. Perhaps she thinks it isn't fair.

To top it all off, at the moment I've got funny pains in my stomach and they are making me nervous. What if something is going wrong?

oh, harman. :hug

Pains can be completely, totally normal. Try not to tie yourself in knots worrying about it.