Thread: Was looking to HE but....

As Ds1 reaches the age where he would be going to school full time and we were looking to HE (not that we haven't been encouraging him anyway) I'm expecting Twins!

And now I'm kind of worried as to how I'll cope with Two kids and two babies.

I was going to be doing childled HE anyway but my concern is that for a few months at least I'm not going to be as mobile as I'd have liked.

I've kind of gotten around the socialising thing by reserving him 4 afternoons a week in playgroup in September, which he is entitled to foc til he is 5 anyway (feb)--- I'm assuming that I'd find getting him there for 12.30 each day while I'm heavily preggo or with small babies easier than getting him to school each morning for 9am (or whatever time it is)-- he isn't ready for full time school anyway just yet.

I guess I'm just looking for reassurances that everything will fall into place and we won't end up killing eachother- as I'm sat on the sofa feeding two babies and trying to occupy two older kids (ds1 will be 4.5 and ds2 will be nearly 2).

Oh and I'm not the most organised of people so- that is another worry that it really is gonna take me all morning to get out the house!!

Thanks for getting thro my ramblings.

xxx

i'm sure it will all fall into place once you establish a good routine... feel free to ramble away!!

Hiya,
bit late getting in here but just wanted to reassure you that it is possible to HE with babies. We have 5 children, aged 10,8,just 4,2 and1. We HE. I know it isnt quite the same as twins but there are just 13 months between our youngest 2, 19 months between our middle and 4th and to be honest everything just sort of falls into place. Yes we're always busy and yes I'm constantly wiped out from having them all here all day, as well as DH (we work from home) but I wouldn't put them in school just for a break. (not that I'm suggesting for one minute that's what you mean though).

Don't so it though to avoid having to get up and go out in the mornings. It does take over your life, in a good way

Hi Eigchick hope your well!

Only just picked this up as been busy with school stuff all week (last week of term!) and feeling knackered and relieved it's the holidays! I guess what I'm also trying to say is that even when they go to school you will still have to get out the house in the mornings, then before you know it, it's time to pick them up, then in between there's playschool runs to do for middle child, plus looking after the baby during all this - I've been there, albiet with 1 baby, not 2! School age children still need lots of support, help with homework, meetings with teacher, special assemblies etc - lots of fun with littlies in tow!

I think if you have your heart set on HE you should go with that - it won't be easy at first, but I'm sure everything will fall in to place once you fall into a natural routine. If you find you are struggling, you could ask your HV to refer you to home start? They can send round someone to help you, by looking after older children while you take a nap, or whatever you need them to do - I was offered this when I had DS2 (had PND)

Don't worry I'm sure you'll be fine just don't expect too much of your self
Sarah x

You'll be fine, really you will.

I home-ed 7 by myself (well 5 now 2 have gone to college) and would be more stressed doing the school run!

Yes it is more of a challenge when you have babies, but just give yourself a few months break. There is no need to keep to school times and holidays so just arrange things to suit your family.

Your ds is still very young and you are doing childled learning, so just do what you want when you want.

Relax and just take things as they come