Thread: Should I go to Doc's about ES opinions please

Your comments are all so welcome, thankyou for your hugs and support.

Kerry thanks, I will try and get a referal, probs through the GP to start.... and see what happens. Aspergers was the real biggy with me all along, the trouble is ES doesn't fit completely with autism, some of the above list strikes a cord with the early years with ES but less so now, and I did discount it originally, because ES has a wicked sense of humour and does laugh and giggle, he uses humour to cover discomfort and has a reputation for being inappropriately silly, he is also not indifferent to others and actually tries very hard to "reach" others, too hard infact, if he finds something that seems to work, he will repeat it in a more exagerated fashion and far from being indifferent is aware and can be upset about his lack of a social circle, other times he accepts it calmly and matter of factly. I also discounted because he was not clumsy and infact loved to dance around our living room, he was quite graceful really, but he has always had difficulty riding a bike and runs like a girl!

The biggest problem I face is that although I am aware that some of what he displays clearly flags autistic spectrum, a lot of of his behaviour doesn't.

Anyway that's by the by you have all been more than helpful and alowed me to see that if I am worried I should see someone, end of.

Thanks again

Everyone is different and he certainly sounds to me more like he has an Aspergers type personality than attention deficit. That's why it's called a spectrum, there are a whole range of pick and mix traits and degrees of posessing them. I have a colleague who has decided he has some degree of Aspergers and he is aware of it and talks to me about the difficulties he has, OK so he is 43 but there is no reason why someone with a problem like that can't become aware of it much earlier and try to compensate. You will have a long road ahead but you may well have another Einstein there... lots of geniuses were hopeless socially I suspect. The thing is I think that if there is self help available "how to cope with your aspergers and become a better functioning social being" or something like that, it's not going to hurt to look for ideas there because they will be true for all of us at some point. It's not like diagnosing an illness and giving drugs that will harm someone who hasn't got the illness.

Good luck and don't get disheartened or blame yourself!

The biggest problem I face is that although I am aware that some of what he displays clearly flags autistic spectrum, a lot of of his behaviour doesn't. How do you know?????

Being totally honest here.... since when were you the expert on diagnosing ASD? You are the expert on your child, so this is where you try and get yourself and the professionals together to try and decide what to do.

There are many many overlaps in conditions, don't think anything without advice from an expert in their field.

Possiby the worse thing you could do would be to go trawling the interwb for clues





My 11yr old is autistic he wasn't diagnosed until he was 9.

Aunty Lady .... you have me pegged.

When did you start to seek advice with your son ? ....

Originally Posted by Tracy11

Aunty Lady .... you have me pegged.

When did you start to seek advice with your son ? ....

He was 3........... took us two local authorities, countless education staff, and 6 years on and off. We moved when he was 6 and started the process again, which is where we finally got the assessment, diagnosis and statement.

It has been f%$*ing hard work, but worth it.