Thread: why does he do this?

Finally FINALLY get a call to say MT can start Beavers, and he went all silly and pretend scared, saying he didn't think he would like it

I feel very impatient when he does this, its like he enjoys being miserable

Like when he nattered for months to start karate and when we got there, he cried non stop, said he was scared and refused to even try again

I've told him he will like Beavers, I will stay with him and he will make lots of new friends

Am tempted to go all 1930's on him and order him to enjoy it What is wrong with this child, these are fun activities, its not as if he is shy or lacks confidence

Hmm does sound a little like DS1, but he is generally lacking in confidence. We regularly have stand offs when it's time to drop him off for scouts, and I KNOW he enjoys it. He kind of mixes up excitement with nervousness I think, and then equates that with being scared. And he just doesn't like things when he doesn't know exactly what's going to happen. Does that sound like MT at all? Would it help to talk through exactly what'll happen?

Mate, if you are going to buy uniform let me know - if you like, he can have the 'official' trousers we have. Could give them to you @ Ickle's.

Be careful - you will get roped into helping. Which is a great thing, if you have the time.

pippa did this for rainbows. wanted to go after seeing kitty go. when she was old enough she was v clingy for about 6 weeks. then some days she was fine and then she started crying and screaming that she didnt ant to go even tho she joined in and had fun whilst there. it became the tuesday night standoff. in the end i gave up fighting with her and she quit in the summer after going for a year. now she doesnt have any clubs atm, altho we are going to try cheerleading on sunday.

no idea why she did it as she showed no sign of not really liking it. used to make me mad. she is a wuss tho but i dunno why it carried on for so long.

Alex didn't like beavers so I didn't make him go - when he had to come with me because dh wasn't around to have him at home I would let him sit in the corner playing his DS. He also hated football & stood there in the middle of the pitch not trying so I stopped that. He is loving karate though so I know it's not because he just doesn't want to join in anything.

If I were you, I would take him for a few weeks but if he doesn't want to stay, there's not much point in making him. You'll find something he enjoys eventually!

Did he ask to join Beavers?

I'm thinking along the same lines of Jen; DD4 was very similar and very often confused the feeling of excitement with the feeling of nervousness. She still does to a point drives me bonkers as I feel she misses out on things she would love!
However, if that is what's happening there isn't much that can be done, just keep trying with lots of different things until you hit the right button.

Rebecca does something similar she gets all excited about joining up, then after a few weeks she loses interest and refuses to go even though she has been enjoying it, she's done it with two different dance classes, rainbows and a couple of the after school clubs she wanted to go to. She goes to Beavers now though, after seeing Owen go before he became a cub, and seems to be enjoying it especially as some of her friends have joined now.

I agree, go with him for a few weeks and if he still doesn't want to go then leave it. I think we feel that they need to do things outside of school, but if they have been given an opportunity and don't want to do it then just keep offering new ones, he will find something.

same here Luke wants too join in clubs goes a few times then wont go again.Football is the only thing he sticks at.I guess with mt hes not found the one yet.

Q does it too. Nine times out of ten, he has a ball when he gets there. Still annoys me.